What is the way to make life happy?
Ghulam Abbas
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Michael Shver@michaelshver
I think it depends on many things. Like building meaningful connections with family, friends, and the community. Learning to worry less about what happened and what will happen. Focusing on the moment and working from it. Aligning your work and free time with activities you love and are passionate about, and in which you see meaning. And on a more basic level, it's important to care about your health: both physical and mental.
Everyone has their own dreams, interests, and passions, but usually, happiness doesn't really depend on just one thing. Building happiness and keeping it up is a process.
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@michaelshver Great! Thank you so much for the comment!
This is a formula I learnt recently. Lower your expectations, more the happiness haha :)
Happiness = outcome - expectation
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@asmitha_rathis1 True!
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@shownotes Great! Thank you!
Contentment is usually one of the criteria but it greatly depends on what makes someone say they are content with what they have....
For me it's enjoying what you have already
I only focus few things right now:
- Getting closer to God
- Make my Wife happy
- Just do & build whatever I want and don't expect anything high (like becoming rich instantly)
@devoresyah I like the second point, you got the idea! 😅
Receiving affirmation from within and externally.
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Be grateful for everything you have! 🌸
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@priyanka27 Great!
knowing that no matter how much you worry you're going to die anyway
@pabloroig_clous positive nihilism?
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@pabloroig_clous Amazing!
So great there are discussions like this on Product Hunt.
My take: Stop being afraid of what people think. They'll forget anyway.
Start building that product, start asking that customer.
You fail, you're fine. You succeed, you're nice.
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The way to make life happy involves finding fulfillment in work, fostering strong connections with family, and cultivating meaningful friendships.
Sad but true - realize that every day can be your last, so do what you love and love what you do!
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@kate_ramakaieva Great!
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Self-awareness. Because when you know yourself better, you eventually become in peace with the good and the bad circumstances.
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@emiliya_strahilova Thank you!
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Wake up in the morning
Go to sleep in the evening
Doing what you live in between + share it with family and friends :)
Happiness often blooms from appreciating the small moments and fostering meaningful relationships. Ghulam Abbas, focusing on gratitude and connection can be a powerful pathway to joy.
For a second, i read it wife 🤣🤣. i certainly dont know about that.
But for life, find its purpose, its simple as that.
For me, it's reading and writing a lot.
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Seeking truth primarily, rather than happiness - first knowing oneself - is the foundation for fulfillment.
Practice reframing negative experiences as non-negative. Our baseline programming is to lash out when life 'slaps us in the face.' Instead, practice non-reaction - observing, like a scientist of your mind, when such incidents occur. Understand that this mindfulness practice is buffering you, whereas the alternative tends to make you and others worse. With this perspective, suffering becomes more like sandpaper, buffering you and giving you more bandwidth (space between you and your thoughts, so you're not a mere hostage to the next arising thought).
To effectively reframe negative experiences, it's essential to know yourself. We all have negative bias, and no matter the standard of "thriving" we reach, that becomes the norm, and our minds will naturally look out for a problem. We have to reach a state of objectivity - not based on how we feel, but through practice. If unchecked, we'll tend to palliate negative emotions with superficial, top-down distractions that are unhealthy. It's a practice of being okay wherever we are - creating the space for what is truly positive (eliminating negatives) - to stop resisting what isn't comfortable. Our built-in reactionary programming is survival-based and doesn't serve us very well anymore.
Therefore, do not put negative emotions on a pedestal - Especially when they're strong, avoid developing opinions on their basis - They are frequently misleading. For instance, our minds continually throw out 'what ifs', due to uncertainty. And when they're negative, we may feel the emotional aftermath of it - *as if it is true*.
Remember that amid toxic emotional distractions, there is a more important, broader perspective that is more true, no matter how strong a feeling is. If it's not pushing you forward, or if it feels toxic, let it go, even as it may continually arise. Replace it with gratitude, countering the negative bias. If you find yourself dwelling on a negative emotion regarding another person, decide whether there is more that needs to be communicated. If so, write it down, and when the time is right, be open, deeply honest, and vulnerable in your communication to facilitate open honesty in the other person. If there is nothing more to communicate, let it go.
Ultimately, this is cultivating the benefits of the deep present - not dwelling on the past or anticipating the future. Then that frees us up to be happy solving good problems - not merely trying to be happy in a vacuum (selfish).
Sam Harris' metaphor for reframing pain illustrates the reframing concept well: 'If you were to feel the pain of lifting weights in a vacuum, without any context, it would be torture - you would call an ambulance. But with the framing of health-improvement, it can actually feel good.' By applying this same principle to negative experiences, we can transform our perception and reduce unnecessary suffering.
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@cleancuts Great!
I think less about failures. I was sad and forgot :)
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@alexbozhin Good!