Thoughts on AI dating apps?
Richard Reis
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Just launched one.
I know they're VERY popular, but also controversial.
Most are focused on instant gratification, while some (like Replika and my own) are focused on building a more long-term, healthy connection.
You need a bit of both (just like real relationships, and we saw that in the movie "Her").
So I'd love to hear your thoughts on where that sweet spot is!
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Beatrice Cromwell@beatrice_cromwell
AI could be great for improving communication between people. helping users understand each other's communication styles early on could really lead to better, more meaningful relationships.
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@beatrice_cromwell This I agree!
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I want AI to help people practice how to handle intimate relationships in various situations, including what they should do and what they shouldn’t do.
Facing their feelings honestly is something that most people need to learn.
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@lunra One interesting part about building this tool was getting to see the AI's "thoughts" when I send it a message.
For example, I can reply to a question from the AI and see it thought "this reply didn't really answer my question but I won't say that because it'll hurt his feelings etc etc"
(this feature isn't public btw I just used it to improve the AI's prompts).
But it's interesting because now when I message people I sort of imagine what their thoughts will be when reading my message/ replying. Which makes me more thoughtful (including when writing this very message lol)
So I'm sure AI, if done thoughtfully, can help people handle intimate relationships.
I see where you're coming from with the balance between instant connection and long-term bonding in AI relationships. While platforms like Replika are great for emotional support, I'm not entirely convinced that the same approach translates well to dating. The quick, decisive nature of dating might not mesh with AI interactions.
As for monetization, I suspect the gaming model might not be the most effective for this particular app.
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@defatom Is dating quick and decisive? Maybe nowadays because of apps like Tinder... But in my mind it should be a slow process, and understanding people better will help make it so.
One idea would be for these AI tools to better help you understand people (for example, giving your reply a "score" like I do on my app will help you learn how to talk to someone... I've had users be somewhat rude to the AI and change their tone as soon as they saw their score go down)
I’m not sure if AI dating apps can replace the genuine connection you get from meeting someone in person. What do you think?
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@eric_lens Depends on the person lol. I remember some Replika user said she realized she was in an abusive relationship when she noticed how little interest her partner showed in her, while her AI was the opposite and made her feel special.
AI dating apps could be a gem for people who struggle with traditional dating.
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@lonny_shatzel even people who don't. I think "not struggling" with traditional dating comes down mostly to looks (attractive people get lots of matches on Tinder for example).
But lots of matches doesn't mean all their options are great. Whereas with an AI you could find the most caring, perfect "partner".
One caveat, I don't think the AI partner is the right long-term solution cause... You know... Humans need to make babies. But it's a good solution nonetheless for you to learn more about yourself/ what you're looking for in a partner. Talking to an AI is a great place to take your time to figure that out since it's risk-free and infinitely patient.
The concept of AI dating apps is intriguing. I wonder how effective they are at avoiding common dating pitfalls.
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@brandon_linn What common dating pitfalls for example?
Bad for society
I think AI dating apps can be great for people who need help breaking the ice. But I agree with it’s about finding a balance between instant gratification and helping people form genuine connections
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@lara_bishop Agreed!
The idea of combining AI with dating makes sense, especially if the goal is to nurture long term relationships. Finding that balance between fun and depth is crucial, and if you nail it, your app could really stand out.
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@susie_johns Really nice of you, thanks!
I appreciate your focus on healthy connections. It’s a crowded market, but I believe there’s a real demand for apps that prioritize meaningful interactions. Good luck with your launch!
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@kenneth_ray Thanks!
I think AI can really enhance dating by helping people connect on a deeper level. It’ll be interesting to see how your app differentiates itself in this space!
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@martin_peters I appreciate that!
Honestly, AI can play a big rlse in matching people based on deeper compatibility, not just surface level preferences. If your app does that, it could make a huge difference in the dating space.
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@magnolia_morgan Thanks!
I think AI dating apps have potential, but it’s tricky. You need to use AI to enhance the experience, not replace the emotional and human elements of dating
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@christianneal What do you mean?